" When a man is unmarried, his life is incomplete. But once he marry, he's finished ! "
- Zsa Zsa Gabor, Actress
" Women, can't live with them, can't live without them. " - Frank Sinatra, Singer and actor
" By all means, marry. If you get a good spouse, you'll become happy.
If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher."
- Socrates, known as the Father of Philosophy
I wish the wedding ceremony would include the reading of some sort of a "Revised Miranda Rights" by the priest to the man who is about to recite his marital vow. It goes something like this :
" You have the right to remain silent. Everything you say can be used against you. You have no right to an attorney for no one can bail you out unless you agree that she is right or you are wrong. A happy wife is a happy life, and failure to do so, you are will be sentenced to a life of hard labor and eternal misery. "
Its the real choice to make - to be right or to be happy.
Someone once said, "A wedding is just an event, a marriage is an achievement." I have always wondered why some couples who vowed to each other to love and honor, until death do them part, ended up going separate ways after just a few years of being together. Most people would think that maybe they didn't try hard enough, but I guess, that maybe they tried too hard and forgot the main ingredient of being together - chemistry.
Chlorine is a toxic gas that irritates the skin, the eyes and the respiratory system. Sodium , on the otherhand, is also a poison in powdered form. Yet when you chemically combine the two elements, they form the compound Sodium Chloride, commonly known as the table salt. Probably the most commonly used ingredient in giving taste to the food that we eat. There was even a time in the early Roman Times when the table salt was used as a currency for trading. Likewise, two people who goes into marriage should get rid of their poisonous qualities to form a bond that would spice up the life of everyone they come close to be with.
Guess I was lucky to have a mathematician for a partner for she sees me as a problem that needs to be solved. She knows how to divide the sorrows, multiply the joy, subtract the bad traits in my ways and add to the things I do best. She was able to differentiate the good sense out of the failures I committed and integrate the good qualities I have that I thought I never have. She provided the equilibrium that allows my kids to be what they wanna be and knows me so well by the number. And most of all, she is the other side of the triangle of which we have our faith on top to form a good family.
Me, on the other hand, being a man of letters provide the colors, trying to draw a picture of a happy life. I may have failed in bringing in a good number of material things but knowing thousands of ways to say I love you in the things I do have kept her blind of all the failures I bring in. One good piece of advice I can give to anyone who wants to keep a marriage intact is to capture the happy moments in your life in form of photographs, maybe keep a diary or store away some souvenirs, to remind you that when things are not going your way, you have some good memories you can go back to and some better moments you can look forward to. You have to keep your faith to keep the wheel moving.
And maybe someday ... you too could read a woman like a book.
Who gets the girl in the end is always the most interesting part of every story. The wedding is not merely a rope you use to tie your woman with, but a good reminder that when things are falling apart, you have a rope to cling on to.
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